Aging: Parents who are not afraid of death are children who are not afraid of life. *
The denial of the age is nonsense. I had afraid of this stage that occurs after the age of sixty. Now that I'm more or less installed on it (I have seventy-three years), I realize that I have simplified life, and most of the things that worried me before, now I think are nonsense, but it was essential: love, children, social justice, solidarity (and the dulce de leche and whipped cream ...)
This age is not so bad, the subject of death is always trouble, but I thought it would be worse. It's silly take the Pendex, mind if I had to go to the gym, would be a laburo and could not make me enjoy this philosopher. When I turned sixty years a party at the school. And I said, I have two paths, or I become a wise old man, or an old pel .... The last thing I found boring. When you assume no age, do not enjoy neither one nor the other. The fear of old age makes the Unseen, which is regarded as unworthy, to hide in a nursing home because they serve no more. Here in Argentina we have the culture of Mirta Legrand, Mirta poor, for youth should wear a surgical mask and not enjoying this age.
U.S. When I was an actress who was very famous, Bette Davis, who was already very old and his face with wrinkles of time. He was driving and had a very respected where I could say something wise, because I was comfortable at that age, was credible.
Also in Italy, being in a square in Rome, I could see they were all old men (the respected nonos) playing cards and drinking Cinzano, with great dignity, and people would ask things. Anyone who saw the movie almost to the end, he knows exactly how it is, and can tell others how is the hand of life. But in Argentina, when you get to this stage, you get into a nursing home and do not take the story, which is needed to build the future. In the Amazon
no retirement of old. I was for many years, adventure, backpack and sleeping bag, and there were the old men of the tribe looking for the Xingu River that flows into the Amazon. And I thought: "There is the national library" ... You knew of births, another canoe, other medicinal plants, cared for them much, because they were the transmitters of wisdom, had not written transmission (it died on the canoe and had to swim across ...) They had a dignity the ones I saw in India. There, in the process of life, respecting all stages.
In these countries of Western culture, technology, where what is not there to throw it again, as is done with humans, and that is nonsense. In American culture all have to be young and cute. There is a stage of life when you're a child, one that is young, one where an adult and one which is old. We went through the four stages of life, if we deny, we will have problems. If they deny us the children we are losing creativity, if we suppressed the teens, we will lose the default. The important thing is to keep growing, is like passing through different seasons. In each one there to get off and take another train (is the evolving crisis.) Some will fall into one and there they stay, do not follow the journey of life. When no one passage passes evolutionary, there is a disturbance. If the girl can not genitalizarse, is a child link, and assumes no possibilities to couples, is the daughter who is captured by a father, sometedor, is forty years old and lives with his father. But it can be paired with the father for the incest and the age difference, are two different worlds. The same applies to the male, the death of the father and the mother puts him in the role of man of the house. This teen starts out of phase of the sexual object, a girlfriend, and is the typical bachelor, or married and have problems, it took off from the mother.
urban concentration creates the nuclear family: father, mother and one or two children, where space is so small that it can not be the grandfather, going to the nursing home, then they have to send her grandson to kindergarten, but Who are the best caregivers for grandchildren? Grandpa and Grandma. What better kindergarten teacher than a parent or a grandparent? Both are out of production, outside the voltage required for the daily struggle, both are in the world of imagination ... In Santiago del Estero
the old nanny is a very important. One who knows the history of the family, transmitting the information, caring for the gurí grandfather, the two extremes of life are complementary.
old age in our country is devalued, the old are marginalized, social change was so abrupt that his experience speaks of an Argentina that we lost, if they finish in the nursing home, treat them like children, the challenge and humiliated, depressed and displayed all the diseases that have to do with low defenses. In contrast, in the healthiest societies, this is a very rich time, because it is the reflection, which is similar to the play and creativity, but after having seen the entire movie and have understood. It's like he traveled a lot and now can see the overview of the trip.
The last stage is what is called senescence, which sometimes has a severe impairment, neuronal, mental functions. Anyway, the end of life process, which is death, is a subject denied in our culture. The end, the agony, sometimes have traumatic features, as some births, at the beginning. Humans are all from the tribe of the "Uterumbas" because we are the womb to the tomb.
can be any age, even seventy, eighty, and you have a project away from death. That I saw in Pigeon elderly, he said: "Death is as far as great is the hope that we build", the theme is to build hope. How you can build?, If that story makes sense and is thrown forward and hope.
Parents who are not afraid of death are children who are not afraid of life.
* Source: "Crisis Therapy. Psychological emergency "Author: Alfredo Moffat - Psychologist
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